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Monday, October 22, 2012

Parents, Steps to Empowering Your Child after they've been Bullied

As a parent, I know that it tears your heart out when your child comes home from school and says that they were bullied. Unfortunately, bullying happens usually when teachers are not around and school intervention happens after the fact once the damage is already done to your child's confidence and self-esteem.

The goal of our Fast CATS Bully Defense program is to empower kids to handle bullies assertively on their own. Parents, you can be your child's best asset for bullying by listening and coaching them for the next situation.

Many parent clearly see the answer and know that their child needs to stand up for themselves but there's no manual on how to teach them to stand up to the bully. The things is... Bullying shuts down the logical brain and signals a  flight or fight instinct so after the fact, it's easy to realize what to do but during the incident it's difficult to do.

The steps below outline how to conquer and cross the instinctual barrier so that we can reprogram your child's brain to respond correctly to the bully situation.

Here's the Steps to Empowering Your Child after they've been Bullied
1. Listen - Try to listen with empathy and do not interrupt. Listen to the full story from your child without providing your opinion.

2. Assess - Used the Fast CATS Bully Defense passive/ aggressive/ assertive model to assess and determine which type of communication they displayed in the situation. If they did nothing, it's a clear indicator of being passive. If it ended in a fight or verbal jabs were thrown, this is an indication of aggressive communication.

3. Model - Review the situation and ask your child what it would look like if they were passive. Then, ask them to play out the situation as too aggressive. Finally, arrive at the proper assertive communication. Don't forget to use the Power Stance and the verbal self defense from our Fast CATS program.

4. Action Plan - Create a plan for what to do and say if the situation happens again. Make sure it remains within the assertive communication guidelines.

5. Practice - Practice is a important component to make sure that your child can do this in real situation. The more real you play out the scenario the better. Take the recent situation and play the part of the bully. Then, have your child mimic the responses that you already talked about. Pay particular attention to your child's body posture and the tonality of the verbal communication. Remember to maintain the power stance and use your "Bad Dog" voice.

Our Fast CATS seminar is extremely powerful program to empower your child to stand up for themselves. I wish that this program existed when I was in school because I know that it would have resolved my conflicts.

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