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Wednesday, November 21, 2007

Pearl S. Buck Charity and Creating Abundance for yourself

We kicked off our Pearl S. Buck Sponsor a Child Program. Christopher Grasso from Pearl S. Buck International spoke to our students about the children they sponsor in Asian countries and their lifestyle.

To demonstrate the effect that one dollar per day can have on these childrens lives, he took a dollar bill and ripped it into four parts. Each part represents the four basic needs that one dollar provides Food, Education, Medical Care, and Social Needs. Its amazing how kids start paying attention when someone starts ripping a dollar bill. Some of the children told me afterwards that they thought he was crazy for ripping the dollar bill.

As part of our fundraiser, Ester and I decided to donate $25 per new enrollment. Giving to charity brings up an important question.

Why do most wealth-building experts agree that giving part of your earnings to charity actually creates wealth?

From David Bach, the Automatic Millionaire, to T. Harv Eker, Secrets of the Millionaire Mind, to Jack Canfield, Chicken Soup profess the value of tithing. I noticed the same effect in Ester and my life. Every time we donate, whether it was to the Alabama project or giving stuff to the Womans Place, afterwards, we experienced a windfall of good fortune.

So whats the secret? Is it Karma maybe, but I think the answer lies in a change of mindset. Donating your time and/ or money puts you in an abundance mindset. Yes, thats the key. Nothing will assist you more than maintaining that abundance mindset than giving.

It makes sense. Think about it. The reason people do not give is that they feel they cant afford it. This thinking is a scarcity mindset. Truthfully, our school goal means that if everyone in our school donates $1 and convinces one other person to give $1, we meet our goal. I dont know many people that cant afford $1 and if anyone does feel this way, I believe that this scarcity mindset is hurting them more than you can believe.

Create an abundance mindset for yourself today and donate to a good cause. If not money, donate your time and start the abundance process for yourself today.

Click Here to donate and stimulate your abdundance mindset today.

Friday, November 16, 2007

Stranger Danger: Tricks and Lures of the Child Predator

The Dateline MSNBC show “To catch a predator” has brought national attention to the problem of child predators. They managed to increase the awareness and the extent of the problem. However, it leaves one nagging question, “How do I protect my children from child predators?”

To reduce the risk of child predators, the public needs to educate themselves about the tricks and lures that they use to entrap their prey. These predators look for three things to steal your children.

ACCESS - They must be able to talk to the child without the child’s parents around.

PRIVACY – A child predator looks for times when the child is alone.

ESCAPE – If the predator has access and privacy, he looks for the final step, which is a safe escape route.

A child predator employs many tricks and lures to steal away your child. The following are a few examples of the most common.

The Gift-Giver Lure

This lure involves the predator offering gifts to your child. The gift can range from cool video games to money. For example, the abductor looks for a lone child in a store and attempts to offer them a free video game, but the game in his car outside the store.

Teach your child to never accept gifts from strangers and tell them that they need to ask for the parent’s permission.

The Helpless Lure

This lure preys on the child’s good nature to help. The predator appears helpless with some form of injury like arm cast or crutches. The abductor asks for the child’s help in carry something for them or holding a door.

Another version of helpless entails a lost item or pet. For example, the predator needs help finding a cat or a lost bike. They ask the child to hop in their car and assist them.

Bottom line, it’s inappropriate for adults to ask children to help them.

The Messenger Lure

The messenger brings bad news about a parent and tells you to come with him right away. Alternatively, He tells you that your mom asked him to pick you up. For example, “Your dad is in the hospital. Your mom sent me to pick you up and take you there right away!”

All families should have a family password that only you and your parent’s know for this type of situation. Ask him for the family password and refuse to go if he does not know it.

By arming yourself with knowledge about the typical lures, parents can teach their children the appropriate way to handle abduction situations. Awareness is the key to our children’s safety.

Sunday, November 4, 2007

Teaching Anger Management and Emotional Control to Children

These days, anger management is a hot topic among educators. More and more, we see angry students committing acts of violence against classmates. Educating the public on the topic of anger management is the best way to help children manage their anger in an appropriate way.

What is anger?

Angry feelings are normal emotional reactions to daily stresses in our lives that range from irritated to enraged. It’s natural for children to experience emotions of anger but it’s critical to teach them proper coping mechanisms so that they do not express these feelings in an uncontrollable manner.

The goal as a parent is not to completely stop the angry emotion since they are hardwired into our brain. The goal is to teach the children to develop self-control and make appropriate choices regarding how to handle these feelings.

Strategies for teach children to handling anger appropriately

1. Lead by example – Research shows that children model their parents so if the parent blows up in fits of rage in front of a child. The child will learn to use anger as a coping mechanism for their situations in their lives.

2. Teach empathy and tolerance – Empathy is the ability to walk a mile in someone else’s shoes. Children that understand the feelings of others deal better with disagreements with other children.

3. Remain calm – Yelling at angry children to control themselves will only increase the intensity of the outburst. Remaining calm yourself will assist the child caught by the anger bee.

4. Use positive self-talk – Teach children to stay in control by saying affirmations. Affirmations are simple positive messages that the child can say to themselves in stressful situations. For example, here’s a few that a child could learn: “Stop and calm down”, “Take a deep breath”, “Stay in control”, or “I can handle this”. Suggest a few to your child and practice it with them. The more you practice it with them the more likely they will use it during an anger driven situation.

5. Teach them deep breathing – During an angry episode, our breathing changes to quick short breathes. This breathing causes a cascade of physiological changes in our body that creates anger. By learning to controlled, deep breathing, children can short circuit the angry response. Teach your child to inhale to a 5 counts, then hold for a 2 counts, and exhale for a 5 counts. For young kids, I call this breathing exercise “Dragon’s breath”. Have them pretend that they are breathing out fire with the exhale and that the fire is the anger leaving the body.

6. Identify anger triggers – Most children respond to specific triggers that cause anger. Ask your child “What situations make you angry?” The answer will vary from frustrations over homework to bullying at school. Then, talk about solutions that are more appropriate to the problem situation. You can even rehearse the scenario by role-playing.

7. Watch for the warning signs – When anger starts to arise, they will show signs. Tell your child that it’s important to listen to the warning signs. Ask your child what the specific warning signs that show that they are getting upset. Some examples of signs could be talking louder, heart pounding, face getting red, clenching fists, or breathing faster. Once you identify the signs, start pointing them out when they show signs of getting upset. For example, “I see your breathing fast” “Looks like you are getting anger” “You’re clenching your fist. Are you getting upset.” This self-awareness will snap the child back into reality and help them manage the anger early – before it’s out of control.

The secret to successful anger management is to intervene early. Most children use anger because it is their only coping mechanism for daily stress. By identifying problem situations and providing them new techniques for coping, you will keep the anger bee from grabbing hold of your child.